What supports are available for family members with loved ones affected by substance use?
Do you ever feel like you try to talk to your loved one about their use but they just get mad? Or, changes never seem to happen? You feel like you have tried everything and nothing seems to be working?
I assist family members who have a loved one experiencing challenges with substance use. I use a Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) approach. CRAFT is a skills-based approach where families learn about topics such as: boundaries, communication, goal-setting, self-care as well as how to understand their loved one’s use and behavior. It is about learning practical strategies to change the environment to make it more likely your loved one will make a change. It is based on science, and yet it is also humane and kind. Read more about this approach here.
Often family members might have other mental health concerns (e.g. low mood, anxiety) when caring for a loved one with substance use challenges. We can work on these challenges together too. The For Clients section has more information about my therapy approach for these kinds of challenges.
Select CRAFT/ITC as the appointment type if you know you’d like to focus on this topic.
While many people are able to claim sessions with a Psychologist through their insurance, there are a number of low to no-cost support resources out there. Here are just a few:
A recording of my talk, Inviting Change: Supporting Recovery When Someone You Love Uses Substances with the British Columbia Psychological Association is available on YouTube. The slides with clickable hyperlinks for all resources are available here.
In BC family members and support persons may find it helpful to access From Grief to Action support resource. Various support groups and an extensive coping kit resource is provided on this site.
SMART Families & Friends support group meetings are based in CRAFT and take place both in person and online.
Helping Families Help is a wonderful website for all things CRAFT. It is a great place to learn more about online family training courses, parent coaches, books and other resources. There is a great blog and so many wonderful resources.
If a family member is struggling to have a loved one begin treatment for substance use issues, research suggests Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) may be helpful. Find out more about this intervention here.
Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change is an excellent book written by experts in the field. It takes a evidence based approach (it uses CRAFT, but with some influences from Motivational Interviewing and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) to help family members help loved ones with substance use challenges. There is a workbook in this approach as well.
The authors of Beyond Addiction also have an excellent website with many helpful and free resources for family members. For example, they have a 20 Minute Guide (directed to partners or family members) which is like a brief version of their Beyond Addiction book. The Short Guide is a bit like a shortened, free version of the Beyond Addiction Workbook. They also have a newsletter that you can subscribe to with helpful tips here, and a blog with past helpful tips/content from the newsletter listed here. Lastly, they have a Beyond Addiction Podcast available here.
Lastly, often family members can experience challenges when their loved one is also experiencing mental health difficulties as well. A great book that compliments everything listed above is I’m Not Sick, I Don’t Need Help by Xavier Amador